Rocky Mountain Horror and GOT. hmmmmm And I thought I was warped. lol
I'm confused when I see this word "truth" mentioned especially in the realm of social media regarding spiritual or political movements. Even I use it to a certain degree. I have to ask myself- "What do I mean by that?" And what do others mean when they use it? I would like to think that the truth in everyone's mind means what is left of an idea or situation after it is completely stripped of all judgemental perspectives, hearsay, personal opinions, and anything else that is non-factual. What you are left with then is something that can be proven beyond the shadow of a doubt. However, there is also a thing that one might refer to as "Personal truth" that speaks for what is true in our own eyes. The error in this, if you will, is that everyone can see the same situation in different ways, which results in "truth" taking many different forms, and looking different for all people involved (many different versions are created of what was seen or observed). And yet, each one of us will adamantly state that OUR version is the truth. And that would not be completely wrong to say. You see, our minds/brains are incredibly creative but limited at the same time. The brain has a hard time convincing us that what we see or perceive is NOT the only or absolute truth. So how can this be reconciled, when 4 or 5 people are all claiming that they know the "truth"? What bothers me the most is when in spiritual matters one says they have "found truth". Well, this certainly might be the case for them, but different for me. But they then assume their truth would also be the truth for me, that their truth in fact applies to everyone, but that the majority of the rest of us just haven't figured that out yet, that we haven't yet discovered "the truth" because for some reason we are blind to it. "But it is the truth," they will say. And they are not wrong in that- because it IS true - but only for them. The error occurs when we swap ABSOLUTE TRUTH for PERSONAL TRUTH. Let me say right away that I don't really believe in "absolute proof", but I think that we strive to come as close to it as we possibly can. ABSOLUTE TRUTH can be "proven" logically with facts and evidence; PERSONAL TRUTH cannot. Absolute truth (proof) has a very tangible component to it; Personal truth is much more abstract and reliant on individal perspective. Let's face it, when we talk about personal truth, what we really doing is adding emotion, personal attitudes and characteristics, background knowledge, opinions, and judgement to what was/is observed in a situation. We bring a lot of pain, trauma, unhealthy baggage, and a lifetime of personal experience to the situation then, oftentimes unbeknownst to us. This is what makes "truth" a PERSONAL truth, and not an absolute truth. We end up judging. "But I'm above judging," someone might say, "because I've done the inner work; I've ascended; I'm awakened" (or whatever else you've heard people say) to which I reply BULLSHIT. WE ALL JUDGE. Constantly. In every tiny little decision we make. In every big decision we make. From "What kind off coffee am I going to make this morning" to "Hey, that person would make a good friend"... We judge, because OUR LIVES DEPEND ON IT. Judgements are really just opinions that lead to decisions about what is best for us. "I won't drink the caffeinated coffee because I don't really like caffeine," leading me to have the opinion that caffienated coffee is somehow "bad". Or, "That kid plays the drums, which is really cool, (opinion/judgement) so I think I'd like to hang out with him"... and so on. The problem occurs when we make it a rule for EVERYONE in our minds, which sounds ludicrous and impossible- and yet if you observe long enough, you'll find we do it all the time without thinking. Is criticism the same as judgement then? You may think I am wrong for equating opinion and judgement as the same thing. In which case you will then bring it to my attention that they are NOT the same. Dictionary comparison of both words should solve the problem then, right? Wrong. Because I may have my own personal reasons for why I feel that way- based in part upon emotional responses and life experience; and the discussion will certainly bring up emotions that confuse it even more. Guess what? Both parties would still be correct because the "truth" in this case is absolute for one and personal for the other. But we still blame, shame, criticize, judge because of that insatiable need to be RIGHT. So, in most cases, especially in social media, we forget the intent and personal aspects behind words that are said or typed onto a screen. We forget that we all bring baggage and emotion to our "truths"... We forget that as hard all we try to not judge or criticize others, it still will absolutely happen without us being aware because we all are human and we all are imperfect. ALL OF US. So, please, remember this when you come across the word "truth" in a conversation, and feel yourself starting to react: attempt to hold your anger responses when someone else cannot "see" or acknowledge YOUR truth, because chances are, some portion of the truth is personal truth and can never be verified no matter how badly you want or need to prove it. I am guilty of it, and so is every other person on the planet. Agree to disagree, separate personal truth from absolute truth in the situation, and let go. If the other person chooses to continue ranting and wanting to prove you wrong, you have a choice to make. Keep arguing and defend your position or click the "exit" button on the computer and let it go. We see this a lot in matters of fear porn and mythical stories, etc. One extreme or the other- where does "truth" lie (look at that pun haha)? Chances are, it's somewhere in the middle. Let's squash the automatic emotional responses that come out of those words "truth" and "judgement" and start seeing the real, fallible, imperfect, wonderful PEOPLE behind those words and not just the words themselves. Maybe by seeing things from that perspective there can be more peace online and in the real world.